tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post5546668757628411027..comments2011-08-28T22:59:02.122-07:00Comments on Understanding Summer...: UNDERSTANDING THE TICKING CLOCKSummer Lynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13949706450096715907noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-27388521602381261652010-07-27T19:05:12.356-07:002010-07-27T19:05:12.356-07:00Summer-
Living so far away from family is so hard....Summer-<br />Living so far away from family is so hard. I know, it is part of the reason we moved back. However, having done both (lived hours away and down the block) I have realized that it will not make your nieces/nephews love you any less or vice versa. As far as getting to know your niece each time you see her, I have to get to know my niece every day and she lives down the street. Plus now you get to be the special treat they don't get everyday. This is the different between having your name squealed in excitement every time you walk in the door and getting a brief "hey" as they continue playing their computer games as you walk in the door. Even if you lived at home, you never know where your sister and her husband's lives are going to take them. They may have to move away too. I know it is sad sometimes but for now try to enjoy the squeals, the hugs and kisses, getting to spoil her because, after all, you don't get to see her everyday, and most of all, the knowledge that when she gets tired and cranky and starts to scream, you can just go home:)<br /><br />P.S. Having kids is like jumping into cold lake water. You know you really want to but you are never really ready for it. Just take a deep breath and jump in.<br /><br />Hang in there,<br />OleviaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-30429329884197799912010-07-26T20:25:00.973-07:002010-07-26T20:25:00.973-07:00You are going to be the BEST Mom EVER whenever you...You are going to be the BEST Mom EVER whenever you and Jason decide you are ready....or as ready as anyone can really be. <br />I remember growing up you always taking care of and looking after me - you have a definite knack for mothering. <br />I know I have been horrible about coming to visit and feel really bad about it. I realize especially now after reading this, that I could have and SHOULD have made a much greater effort. My trip would just take a little longer with the pumping/feeding pitstops I would have to make. :)<br />I dream about the thought of our kids growing up together - who knows, maybe someday you'll open your own firm in Cd'A or somewhere close by.<br />Anyways, I love you tons and am soooo looking forward to seeing you next weekend, even if you are AGAIN the one who is having to make the trip. Brodie and I can't wait to hang out with Auntie Summie!! :) XOXO<br />~ChelseaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-35505597546365311052010-07-26T18:00:46.453-07:002010-07-26T18:00:46.453-07:00Thanks for the comments and encouragement everyone...Thanks for the comments and encouragement everyone. I really appreciate it. I guess I should explain a little more that I understand that there is NEVER a good time to have a baby, but when I say I wonder if I'll ever truely be ready, I mean ready to the point where I want to start trying. Right now, I am not to the point where I feel ready and want to start trying (which I'm sure Jason is happy to hear) but am jealous of those who have been able to say 'Yes, we want to start a family and physically trying to get pregnant.' Right now I just can't see myself feeling that way, and being confident about it anytime real soon, but I know I don't want to wait too much longer. Everytime I see a baby, I melt and get excited to have one of my own...someday. And while I feel like someday should be sometime soon, I'm not ready to take the plunge quite yet. That is what I worry about and am jealous of...those who are confident is saying 'Let's take that plunge.' Will I ever be ready to say 'I'm ready.' Part of me feels like I should already be ready, and I wonder what the heck is holding me back. My love for sleeping in? Traveling? Yes and yes...but it's more than that I think, but I can't pin down exactly what. These are the thoughts that keep me up at night.Summer Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13949706450096715907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-30815511388513942392010-07-26T16:51:00.374-07:002010-07-26T16:51:00.374-07:00I had my first child at 18 (pregnant at 17) and I&...I had my first child at 18 (pregnant at 17) and I'm ALWAYS jealous when I read posts from my friends about going on vacations, or having nights out or whatever. I left home at 16, got pregnant at 17, was a mom at 18, and then a mother of 2 at 20. It was not easy. I think whenever you feel ready to have a baby, that's the right time. Whether you do it at 30 or do it at 40 is irrelevant. Once you are a mother, there is no feeling on earth like it. Those things like vacations and traveling don't seem as important anymore, and having a baby doesn't tie you down as much as it would seem to. I've done the 16 hour (one way) trip from Denver to Coeur d'Alene and back with my kids *alone* at least 8 times. It can be done!<br /><br />MiaMianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-49509604118938289322010-07-26T16:01:37.167-07:002010-07-26T16:01:37.167-07:00Well sweetie, I can tell you that no time is the r...Well sweetie, I can tell you that no time is the right time to have a baby. But that all babies are a little blessing. Even surprises like my Katya and Logan.<br /><br />They change your life forever and give you a perspective of the world that just don't get to experience otherwise. <br /><br />You can travel with kids. It just isn't as far. You drive more and fly less. No biggie. <br /><br />But you are very goal oriented and you just need to get that license so you can open your time up for a little bundle of cuteness all your own. Then tell your sister to put her kid in the car and drive over. If I can make the trek to San Diego and back every year, she can drive from Idaho. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11116325673368119732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-24122507852367800322010-07-26T14:44:33.371-07:002010-07-26T14:44:33.371-07:00Summer, my sister (seven years younger than I) has...Summer, my sister (seven years younger than I) has THREE kids already, and as you know, I have none. Don't even want any. I'm completely off the hook- no pressure from the parents anymore, because they have plenty of grandkids already. And, I feel much better knowing that I am not contributing to the overpopulation issue that most seem to ignore. So, its not all that bad. I highly recommend you get your licensure ASAP, however! -RachelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-43194230401478035902010-07-26T14:16:28.077-07:002010-07-26T14:16:28.077-07:00I feel you, Summer. I'm the only one out of my...I feel you, Summer. I'm the only one out of my three sisters who isn't married or breeding. I don't regret my choice to focus on school and then career, but I do feel a twinge of jealousy when I see they have something that I realize now I really want. It'll happen. You're right in waiting. I don't think anyone is ever really ready, but you definitely know when you're not.<br />I also understand what it's like to not see your nieces and nephews as much as you'd like. I think I've settled into the fact that I'm just eccentric Aunt Christine from the city now, but it's no fun to feel like you have to get to know them all over every time you see them. I've definitely tried harder when my younger sister had her baby and I've seen it pay off. Being an aunt is awesome and when you work hard at it, it can be a very special kind of relationship:)Christinehttp://www.facebook.com/popculturistanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-42668086684318295602010-07-26T13:18:39.961-07:002010-07-26T13:18:39.961-07:00Yes Summer you can travel with kids! Tony and I w...Yes Summer you can travel with kids! Tony and I were just saying Aliyah has traveled more in her life then the two of us ever did before we were like teenagers or older. It's not always pleasant but it can still happen. You can even travel WITHOUT the kids! =)<br /><br />Moving away was so hard, to take Aliyah away from her grandparents and her cousins, (and everyone else) but we skype a lot and that helps.<br /><br />-BreeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5619437690731991129.post-19331197445685923182010-07-26T12:51:16.402-07:002010-07-26T12:51:16.402-07:00My little sister (4 years younger than me) had 3 k...My little sister (4 years younger than me) had 3 kids before I had one. I totally understand the jealousy/sadness. You'll feel better after you have one... even if it is years after your sister starts her family. Once he is big enough, you'll be able to talk to him on the phone and you'll be the best auntie out there. And there is always webcams and all of that great technology so that you can see him grow up without having to travel there so often. And honestly... there is no being totally ready to have a kid. Noone has their life completely together, has all of the traveling done that they want to do, or has everything in place before they have a kid. It's all about what works for you. :) No ticking clock. Just a lifetime of excitement whenever you choose it.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10586473660785901274noreply@blogger.com